Thank you all so much.... He is a high functioning alcoholic...as I've just learned by reading here.... He doesn't drink when he's working (shift work, sometimes graves, sometimes days)...but on his days off...he drinks. Last Friday was the last straw. I went out for a time, and when I came home, someone had stopped by, but he couldn't remember who, (remembered the next day), he gave away (?!) one of my chickens, etc.... It makes me feel absolutely sick inside. And I am NOT good with confrontations...so when he gets angry like this, and turns all the fault and blame to me.... I cave. Thank you for the moral support. I can see I'm going to need all I can get.