well.... first realize it's not your fault and nothing you can do or say is going to change or save him unless and until he's ready to change and save himself.
meantime - you're in your right to express your concerns, your fears, your truth and most of all - your BOUNDARIES.
You might consider getting to an Alanon meeting and picking up a Big Book to read up on.
But stick around here, and we will be here for you.
