I'm so sorry. I know the anxiety. I think you know my outcome- 60/40, settled out of court. But it looks like that may be changing soon.
I know it's terrifying. They give waaaaaaaaaaaay too many chances. The motto seems to be, "wait and see"- it's almost as if they're thinking, "Well, we see that he did this this and this during the marriage, but surely he'll be ready to change now?"
Sometimes all we can do is pray. Addicts are sloppy. He'll mess up eventually.