Personally, I think we have to put GAINING initial solid sobriety above all else until we are strong enough and have thought through viable sober options for staying sober in trying social/family settings. So, maybe don't think you'll become a monk and leave society behind forever...but do you want health and safety (sobriety) enough to curtail impossible situations for a time?
Edit: caution, above may sound "preachy". Believe me that I am thinking this through for my very own self, too!