Both at the same time? ?
You know there was a time that I wished he would stop with me, but after five different groups out how all-over-the-place I was emotionally I early sobriety, I did realise that this was grass-is-greener type thinking.
I reckon that you both need to be ready for some time-outs being called in the early days. But wow - what a lovely thing if you both manage to get sober and with some solid recovery behind you. It will all be worth it.
Just don't focus only on sobriety and dismiss the recovery aspects. If we want a healthy, happy and sustainable sobriety, the n working on the recovery sid eof things is essential. Removing alcohol is like taking away a lame man's crutches. We need to learn to use something else instead, and that's what recovery is all about. The last thing going you need is the two of you white-knuckling away, sniping at each other, collecting resentments against each other and trading them like stamp-warfare.
Well done for your 13 days.
Wishing you all the best for your continued sobriety and recovery. BB