I think it’s very hurtful when they act as if we didn’t matter or that the marriage/relationship didn’t matter. I think the most important thing we need to keep reminding ourselves is that WE DO MATTER and we take actions like leaving a bad situation/marriage etc because we know we matter.
Don’t be surprised if after you take action and actually leave that he has a light bulb moment and reacts to it all. It may not be that day or a month after you’ve been gone but a reaction will happen good or bad it’s almost predictable.