I know it hurts
Musiclady, I know his lack of response hurts. It is like a physical blow. While we are trying to fight for the life we deserve and the person we love, they seem to just detach. I am experiencing the same thing. I was told "I love you, but I am not going to change. If you can't live with that, I don't blame you and I won't contest a divorce" What we want to hear is " No, don't do this, I will get help, do better, anything not to lose you and my family" unfortunately they are so wrapped up in their needs and wants they can't see, or don't want to, what they are loosing, what their indifference does to us. I am slowly and painfully learning this is part of their disease, this is them. You can only keep telling yourself you deserve better, and do what is right for you and your children. It is hard, it hurts like hell, but you do deserve better. I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Sending you hugs and strength.