Penguin....think of it this way....what would you do if a friend, neighbor, co-worker or stranger called you "lazy, dirty, and disgusting".....?
I'll bet that you wouldn't hang around them and do their bidding.....
***And, don't extend him any special excuse just because he has been sober for a short time....he has gone well beyond being irritable....
He is being abusive. sobriety is no excuse for abuse....(there is no excuse for abuse).....
He is just deflecting and projecting his crap onto you...to try to make himself look and feel better.....
Let him know that you have a spine and self-respect...even if he has none for you....