No one including our mutual friends believe that he is an alcoholic. They've not seen him at his worst because we always leave before he gets worse. Then he'd buy more booze before reaching home and would drink. He has hidden booze, drank while I was at work, admitted he has a problem, continued to drink more and more, call in sick and drink yet I haven't told anyone because I was so ashamed and always felt I could help him. Even offered to pay for rehab. His family ignored me when I called and cried. Now he has told them I drink and smoke, they think I am making him drink with my fights. I am so helpless and feel so bad for everything.