Originally Posted by
Brownstone 
We have to let that go,he did what he took thought was best and said our son seemed stable and very clear minded. But we all know the next time someone gets high, it could be the very last time,
I can imagine your husband had beat himself up but he really does not need to. He had no way of knowing. It is very possible your son did plan on telling his wife. Often times you hear of people having a last "hoorah" before entering detox or rehab, this may have been your son's. It is also possible that even if he had told you or your daughter-in-law, it could have still happened.
When things settle down you may want to look into Al-Anon meetings. They are a lifesaver to me! One of the first things you will hear concerning addiction are the 3 C's - You didn't Cause it. You can't Control it. You can't Cure it.
I will keep your son and your family in my prayers. Also that your son seeks recovery.