Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
Yeah, it was sort of a cowardly (and childish) way to break up, but that's one more reason you're better off without him in your life.
I hope you'll take some time to focus on what kept you in that relationship for so long when things were going so badly. Life shouldn't be one drama after another. You want your next relationship to be healthy, right? So spend some time getting yourself together, so you will eventually be in a position to have a GOOD relationship with someone who doesn't come with baggage like active addiction.
I am reading Codependent no more as I type this. It makes so much sense now. I've been in completely useless relationships in the past because they had anger issues, incompetent to find a job issue or the recent alcohol issues.