Leaving is the only sane thing to do, Musiclady. There is an outside chance that it may be the bottom he needs to hit to change, but the way it sounds, I'm doubting that. For what it's worth, none of this is your fault. You didn't cause it, and you can't stop it. You're making the right decision by leaving. Staying with an alcoholic lost in his disease is a nightmare and a punishment you and your children just don't deserve. Be strong. You can do this. We're all here for you.