I have mixed feelings (if you'll pardon the expression) about that one. Feelings are what get a lot of us into trouble. We FEEL that this or that is gonna happen, or we FEEL that we can't survive without the alcoholic (or that s/he can't survive without us), or we FEEL that other people will judge us harshly for leaving, or we FEEL that we are stuck with our lives as they are.
As we often say around here, "feelings aren't FACTS." So yeah, I think we have to take our feelings into account, and not ignore them (because occasionally they are right on the money), but I certainly wouldn't suggest that someone wrapped in the chaos of an alcoholic relationship make decisions based on them.
Just a counterpoint.
