Max,
Welcome and glad you found us. You sound like a really good guy who is dealing with a very sick women. I hope you have cut off all contact with her. No calls, texting, email or facebook. She is very Ill and I hope that you will never get sucked back into that train wreck again.
You need to move forward. Head back to the therapist, maybe hit an alanon meeting and keep the focus on you getting well. Give her to God to watch over. You have done all that you can for her. Hang in there, it will take time, but you will be ok!!