venuscat, someone posted here about how, years ago, she and her friend were making fun of Cher's extremely short marriage to Greg Allman. The poster's father said "there's nothing wrong with admitting a mistake as soon as you know you've made it." And that stuck w/her up until the present.
It was a revelation for me too--the idea that I could look at an action, a situation, whatever, and go "you know, this is a mistake" and get started right away w/fixing the problem, heading a different direction, whatever it takes to move on. I'd always felt that I needed to hang on like grim death, trying and persisting and struggling, contorting myself and the situation to try to
make it work, dammit...b/c if only I try hard enough, it HAS to work!
And the results of that were predictably bad. Yep, that member's father was a wise man--realize and admit your mistake, learn what you can from it, and move on w/your new insight tucked inside to help you along the way.
It is so freeing when I remember to do this!
