Ps. I called my ex-husband last year - with whom I've shared much of my lifetime - 9 years together & 18 years as friends & co-parents, - to make "formal amends" for something I did during our marraige.
He interrupted me a few minutes in & said, "are you doing amends again?"
I said, " yes, you have been so important to me, I need to tell you formally that..."
He interrupted again. "I don't want to be disrespectful, but you already apologized for this..."
Me - "oh, well, this is more than an apology! This is a..."
Him - "I am so sorry to interrupt. Is this a "formal amends?" Seriously, that's really sweet, but you already did that at least five times...it's all good. I forgave this decades ago!"
Me- "I..."
Him- "No, seriously. Five times. "
Five times & I did not remember a single one of those conversations! That is both so sweet & so disoriented & embarrassing! Please stop me, friends, if I announce that I'm preparing to make amends to him again!