Originally Posted by
TobeC 
Have you tried a mediator and not lawyers? The moment lawyers get involved their egos and wallet get in the way of progress. I'm no expert by any means.
I'm not sure whose wallet and ego you are referring to, but if it's lawyers, that describes a few members of the bar, not the majority. And yes, she has tried mediation, which hasn't worked here (as it is prone to fail in most divorces where there abuse is involved). And, incidentally, mediation involves lawyers, if the parties have them.