Hi Zircon,
Sending positive vibes your way. I can empathize with how you feel as I'm going through tough negotiations (well, I'm trying to negotiate; he's not) with my STBXAH, too. A friend just reminded me of something I had forgotten: our ex-partners are almost certainly not thinking clearly given the alcohol poisoning they've subjected their brains to. Like others are saying above, we can hold out hope that reason and the law is on our side.