welcome!
it's only been ONE WEEK.....absolutely nothing is fixed and everyone is in emotional tumult right now. what you see and feel today will not be the same tomorrow, a month from now or a year from now. your AH is going thru withdrawals and is no longer under the influence. they may have him on medication to help ease the w/d symptoms. to be frank, right now he doesn't know his backside from a hole in the ground. this is not the time to back big decisions, NOR to take anything he says seriously. he needs more time to settle down and sort things out.
you do not have to "let" either of them back home right now. in fact, it is probably best for all concerned that you do NOT. the son needs help, and the AH needs additional time to learn how to live as a sober man and not turn to drugs or alcohol when the going gets tough. he needs to feel his feelings, deal with a bad day, learn which IS his backside and which IS the hole in the ground!
his needs are no more important than yours. EVER. remember that.
