Our own recovery
I came to stop the insanity of my life. The focus had been on his drinking and his actions. I did what I did to help him and I thought helped us. To kiss him to know whether he was drinking or not. To be the designated driver so I didn't have to worry about drunk driving. All the actions gave him the ability to not change. To allow instead of to draw lines with unacceptable behaviors.
My inventory was not the focus. In the process my life and the life of my children deteriorated. To keep the focus on us I save three lives. I can not save the fourth life. Those life saving measures belongs to that person.
I heard of taking my inventory but never thought of the goals of recovery. I may not even be aware of all my goals. I was just living to get through the day. Reaction was my tool now it is action.