Thank you, darkling. I hadn't noticed, until I read your post that I've been doing the "I got this" since childhood!
I'm an only child of a drifting, alcoholic single-parent mother (now passed). I've "had this" forever. As a 9 year old, making tuna noodle casserole in a dark & lonely house, I've "had this."
And yes, if you are always the supportive one at meetings, no one is quite sure what to do with you when you admit grief or unsurity. You are outside your role. It feels weird to everyone, myself included...
But "real" is becoming far more important to me than any other value...