the best person to help an alcoholic is other alcoholics...and, professionals especially trained to work with alcoholism.
You are not qualified to help him with his addiction...
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Clean and sober people don't phone people at 1 am, to me that is a big red flag. And the fact that his actions don't match his words is another.
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It’s sad when they know all the manipulative words to use on us, the words we long/longed to hear……….
They are in or have gone through rehab = (often just lies)
They want to hear our voice = (inconsiderate to us at 1AM, convenient for them while high)
They miss us = (no one else will bother with them)
They want to make amends = (setting the stage to ask for money, a place to stay, etc)
Believe the part of you that is telling you he is lying.