Originally Posted by
paulokes 
This is nothing personal, I find your conversations interesting. But the discussion style is a classic..."Help me, help me...but you can't".
It's a trait of people with intimacy issues, trust issues and problems relating to others.
No offence is intended there...it is just blindingly a parent to me from discussions like this so it feels dishonest not to point that out.
I speak from personal experience, not from judgement
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Anything that has to be prefaced with "nothing person but..."
I am not rejecting anyone's efforts to help or telling them they can't. I don't know what the answer is, and that's why I'm asking. But I do hear a lot of things that make it seem like I don't have a valid problem? Like I'm saying one thing and people are saying "Yeah but the real problem is that you..." it makes me feel slightly crazy..