Another Crossroads
I have been reading these boards and thank you all you have helped me already.
Tonight my AH drove home from pub and crashed new car (not badly damaged and no one hurt but that is hardly the point).
He has been building up to this and I know he will stop drinking now for a while.
I am so sick of this cycle. I have sympathised with him regarding his problems, I have gotten angry and comfronted him. I have covered up, I have prentended nothing is wrong I hve taken charge of our lives, I have thrown the responsibility back to him. Basicially the coping mechanisms you all have used at one time or another.
When he came home (after I warned him not to drink and drive like he dosen't know that's wrong), with the news I was relieved that he hadn't done worse.
He is of course fast asleep.
I am wondering where we go from here.
I know ultiamatums are not good but how do I set boundaries.
Bit of History. H is sexual abuse survivor and has been in councelling and has made lots of progress at times. He has got abuser convicted and jailed. Last couple of years have been a bit of a rollercoaster.