schnappi.....the usual advice is to go to 6 different alanon meetings....because the tone can be different in each of them.....
Alanon is for you to figure out how to feel better about yourself...not to get the alcoholic to stop drinking.....(because you can't control the alcoholic...you can only control yourself ).....
There are, also, other groups that can be helpful for you, also.....
I don't hear anything about what he is doing to get sober.....is he going to AA meetings every day...does he have a sponsor? Has he seen a doctor or counselor?.....Has he joined any o nline groups for alcoholics?
I hope that you have been reading the "stickies"...the articles listed above the regular threads on the main page....there is a bootcamp of information alcoholism and co-dependency in those many, many articles.....
Keep posting, here...and reading the thousands...thousands...of other real life stories of others who have walked in your shoes....
(Celebrate Recovery, Adult Children of Alcoholics, Co-dependents Anonymous, are some of the other groups that you might find support in)