Hi Joy, glad you found SR. There is a lot of wisdom here.
I know you love this guy but his drinking is way out of control and you (rightfully) do not trust him any further than you could throw him. Lack of trust in a relationship, for any reason, makes for a lot of heartbreak.
Landing in the ER, losing a job, passing out drunk, lying to protect his drinking - you do not need this in your life. Even if he's wonderful and holds it together when you visit. The second you leave he's drunk and lying.
What does your gut tell you to do?
Keep reading the many posts here of people with an A partner. We all understand what it's like to love an addict. Keep posting.