I am the Mom in the saga mentioned above. .. it is hard very hard and you are right. I know what's right to do . . I just am not sure I am strong enough to do it. I love my other children for wanting to "do the right thing" because "I can't seem to". . i have found two meetings within 50 miles of where I live and I do plan to go. . . thank you to everyone and thank you for this site and that my daughter found it for us. I know eventually things have to get better for me. . . and my family. HopefulHMIA