Originally Posted by
PuzzledHeart 
Doesn't AA/NA strongly discourage sponsors from providing financial assistance to members? If that's the case, I'm sure there's a very good reason why.
Yes. A common saying is "carry the message not the alcoholic."
Sunshine,
I know exactly how you feel. I had a good friend and business associate who reached out to me when I first got sober. He said all the right things. He was in a lot of pain and I was sure he was ready to quit pills and alcohol. I wanted him to sober up as bad as I wanted to stay sober. He and his wife split so I let him move into one of my apartments. He went to detox but wouldn't quit the xanax and eventually relapsed on alcohol. In the end he wrecked my apartment and moved out several months behind on rent.
Moral of the story is I should have just kept talking to him and trying to get him to go to AA with me. Now I'm guessing he will avoid me which blows any chance of getting him to a meeting. Please be careful about how much assistance you provide. Don't blow it like I did.