Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
sammy03...
Welcome to the Board. I'm sorry for what has brought you here, but I'm glad to took the step to reach out for support. Other members will be by in due course to greet you and offer you support. Until they do, I'd like to share my thoughts.
What is supposed to be a time of joy (expecting your fourth child -- congratulations!) has turned into a time of stress and worry. And it's both normal and appropriate to be stressed and worried about how your AH's behaved given his track record. So what I encourage you to do is set aside how you want things to go in a perfect world and consider what you and your family need going forward. Notice how I've drawn a distinction between what you want and what you need, as the two are not necessarily the same thing.
And in order to do this, you need to be honest with yourself and know what you're dealing with. It's not going to be easy. Then again, life's seldom easy.
Read as many posts as you can. Pay attention to what our members share with you. It won't make your decisions any easier, but it will give you a solid foundation on which to make them.
Keep us posted, and again, Welcome to the Board.