Well, an update. I got a referral for an attorney who only handles child custody cases, and I have a meeting with her next week to just sit down, bring in the documents, and go over everything and see if there are any options.
The counselor is pushing my DD to write a letter to her dad requesting no overnights. I had thought this would never work, however, the more I think about it, maybe it will. They have let his wife's oldest DD take over what was my DD's room at his house, however she sleeps on the couch when my DD is there. I am sure she would like to have that room be completely hers. She has another room at their house downstairs that she won't use, don't even ask.
So maybe he would see that as a solution, though I doubt it very much. Either way, I know I will feel more in control of the situation and know all of my options after sitting down w/the attorney.
Thanks for reading, I hope everyone has a great weekend! It's my weekend w/my DD so I am hoping for a good one!