I so get it. Almost everyone I know in person judged me for leaving my ex. "Was it really that bad?" " But he never hit you" "He never cheated on you" " he provided well" "Couldn't you just let him drink once in a while to blow off a little steam?" ( as if I got to LET him do anything... OMG ) etc... People that are living comfortably in their own chaos (of addiction or codependence ) don't get it... people who have never lived in the chaos that addiction brings into the relationship don't get it. People here at SoberRecovery DO get it. I'm glad you are here. You are definitely NOT alone.