They have encouraged you because it take tremendous courage to take the steps you have taken. A winner takes note and makes the necessary changes.
It takes a great deal of time for some to take notice, and then, some will never admit it you are in fact a better person. Generally it's because they have issues themselves.
My point was, try your best to keep the back patting to a minimum. DO stay focused on YOU and keeping your side of the street clean. If you really focus on YOU, and pull back from the g/f, she will take notice even more.
I really can relate to your pain, as I have experienced losing those I love in the recent past. It took my awhile in most cases to move along, but so far, I have always been better off, all part of my Higher Powers plan.
Keep on keeping on, my congrats you to you.
The sooner you get involved in a program, the better! Like this weekend! What better time than the present.......
Tom