My husband and I drank together for years - I honestly think it was a major point of relation. Everything got very bad and dark for me and I left him for a bit. He told me I could never get sober on my own.
Well I am sober ten months Jan 15, I am still married and in the same house, and he still drinks (not as much as I did, but about four to six times a week).
You can do this.