I don't think it's that black and white, IMO. There are at times definite differences in how men and women communicate, but good healthy communication isn't instinctive (at least not for me). It's something that has to be learned and practiced. Most men I know (including myself) are naturally "thick" in the communication dept. It's not that we don't care, it's that we don't pick up on the subtleties very well when we're not actively engaged and really listening.