on the breastfeeding-and so many other things-so many put so much energy into working to control the behavior of others based on their very own passions (ok if only applied to themselves) and control needs (not ok). when people focus on the 'how' to do the task the best way (breastfeeding vs formula) and apply it to the outcome (raising a baby/child into a healthy self actualized adult)-there is definitely an issue going on around not seeing the forest for the trees.