hearthealth...I have not felt as close to most of my in-laws as I would have liked.....
It is not because I didn't want more genuine closdeness...because, I did!
They were/are basically, somewhat aloof people....
Basic civility was about all that I could muster......
I think that most families "take the side" of their own biology....not all, but most.....
Why do you suppose that there are so many "in-laws" jokes?