hi BC, the comment re apologizing to the mods about defending yourself...it caught my eye. we defend when we feel attacked.
not sure thgis is of use to you, but i'll add my sense of reading here which is that no-one is attacking you. people are sharing about themselves (they didn't notice the thread views, for example (i didn't, either; have never paid attention to that)) or asking questions.
when the responsive is a defense, there is no real conversation happening, as in con and verse. back and forth with, not against.
learned this from years of defending
