BrendaChenowyth

Let me elongate what I was saying and see if i can make it clearer lol

I said it is not as if I was in a marriage and messed up my own marriage. If it were my own marriage, then the only lives I would have messed up would be my own and that of the person, my spouse, who belonged to me.

I came in as an outsider, and entered the universe that was this family... On any given Sunday, four generations were present! On holidays, fifty people! I was the only one not related by blood or marriage.

I entered, I got involved with this man. I didn't just affect his life. I affected his wife's. Their kids and their kid's spouses were aware. His cousins were aware. The began to look at him differently, especially as his drinking began to visibly escalate (eg, at one point a nephew commented on his drinking and he openly admitted he drank all the time now, even at work).. he said this in front of three nephews, two nieces, his mother, his sister, his aunt and myself that day.