Some great advice for you here, notbrowneyed. I echo what LexieCat, TobeC and BeKindAlways say... If/when you say goodbye to him do make sure to do some reading around here and other places (Al-Anon literature,
CoDependent No More are two great places to start). I personally was not educated at all about alcoholism until recently and I wish I had known way more before I married my soon to be AXH. (
Also there's a great sticky post on all the acronyms we use on this site!)
There's a thread here titled "Would you marry an alcoholic?" and it's a really enlightening read - I'd recommend it, too.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...alcoholic.html
Welcome to SR - you are very lucky to have found this place so early on. Keep us posted and keep posting - we're cheering for you!