"It seems like it is a part of everything."
it seems like it is, probably because everything you've done included alcohol. probably had the same blinders on I had on.
but it isn't a part of everything. in fact, now that im sober, I see it a lot less than I perceived when I was drinking.
" I now know why AA says to stay single for a year."
that's said by people in AA, but the program of AA doesnt say that.
and personal experience? I only attracted someone as sick as myself and it wasn't a very fun relationship.