So let me see if I understand this: He has an addiction to porn. You have an addiction to alcohol. Is one different from the other? He has about as much control over his pornography addiction as you do over your alcoholism. If he's not getting help, that's one thing. But to make out like somehow you're more of a victim because his addiction is in some way different than yours won't help the situation. Addictions cause insane behaviors. Lying, cheating, stealing, neglect, the list goes on and on. Doesn't matter what we use to fill that hole inside us with. Once we get used to it and it starts running the show, things get ugly. Maybe instead of getting angry you'd be better suited trying to understand the roots of his addiction. Just a thought.