Welcome back NB. Sorry to hear about your issues with your Husband, hope you can come to some type of amicable agreement and he can get help for other issues if he needs it.
I think the main thing to remember is that alcohol is never going to help in any stressful situation. If anyting it's going to make it worse to be honest. So using a bad day at work/personal issue/etc as a "reason" to drink has to be taken off the table. I would be willing to bet that your sponsor will be able to help you with this too. I don't say any of this to downplay the seriousness of the other issues you are dealing with, because they are serious. But you have to learn to find other ways of effectively dealing with them without opening a bottle. We can help you with that and congrats on staying sober today and coming here to seek help.