Yeah, I have some perfectionist symptoms too - for sure.
Things are shifting for me lately, and I don't know if it's because of recovery in general, or just me growing - expanding my awareness / acceptance of MYSELF for a change? But recently, I'm ok with a couple dirty dishes in the sink, and being 100 miles overdue for an oil change...if it means I'm out living life and doing things I love alone or with people I love. Maybe my priorities are just shifting after losing my dad - I dunno....but I'm happy as hell about it!
THe mantras here...."its not my business what people think about me, " everyone is doing their best, and that includes me", and the quote on my avatar are always with me and help me daily.
For the record, Liz - you're pretty great as ya are!