Sephra....you know how things are going to go with the son in the house.....
With his history of drug use..and, current drug use, and his deplorable attitude....there is no doubt that you will be headed toward the fires of ***l on the Krazy Train......
If you already know this....then, you become a volunteer, rather than a victim.....
LOL...volunteers don't get to complain...
In recovery circles, it is often said..."Let go, or be dragged".
The reason that this is said, so often, is that when dealing with addictions or abuse...it, so often just comes down to these two choices......
"When the fear and pain of staying becomes greater than the fear of leaving"....that is the time that action is taken.....
sounds like you are going to be staying for a while longer......
I would just implore you to not give up counseling for YOUSELF...no matter what!