Originally Posted by
Bekindalways 
Hey Ginny, lots of folks come here thinking sobriety causes things to get better; eventually it does for most. At least for the alcoholic.
However, this first year can be pretty rough all around for everyone. You just lost a major component, alcohol, of a 27 year marriage. Lots of unhappy stuff has been hidden behind the disaster of alcohol . . . not fun for most of us to face this.
Please get all the help and support you can for yourself. This is not easy . . . as you seem to have realized.
No, things do not always get better for the alcoholic, even if they are in recovery and sober. They have to live with forever losing the trust of the spouse and the spouse forever waiting for the shoe to drop and it's all their fault.