I agree with everyone, you don't have to label yourself an alcoholic, but based on your post it sounds like alcohol is causing alot of problems in your life. It reminds me of how I used to feel when I drank. I'm 5 years clean from alcohol but traded it for a 3 year addiction to opiates from which I'm now 24 days clean.
I told myself I wasn't an alcoholic, I said I have a 'reason' to drink so it's ok, I'm a responsible person, I go to work every day and most of the time function just fine. I finally realized that I was being deceived by an evil addiction and I would tell myself anything I needed to to justify my drinking and to be able to keep doing it. My life is infinately better without alcohol, I'm not a slave to the lies any longer.
I have found so many great kind knowledgeable people here. You are in the right place!