Good for me for NOT doing them, but still, why are they so close to the surface as my primary response? I hate that.
I can completely relate to this!! For me, those feelings and reactions were my mode of handling for so long that it's going to take me a while to replace them. I really couldn't agree more with NoCellPhone.
I think you did beautifully by retreating to the basement! Stepping out of the drama is wonderful progress! Way to go Jenny!