Good plan. We have done all that we can to help my mom stay in her home for as long as possible. But, really, it's day to day. My friend helped her parents sell their house and business and moved them closer to her. Her dad is much like yours. Doesn't want to go out, just sits, watches tv, and smokes. It's sad, but my friend has given up trying to help make changes. As with so many things in life, we can't make people do what they don't want to. Just know that you are not alone. When I go to any gathering these days, i invariably end up in a knot of people who are caring for elderly parents in some way. It's almost comical. The other day I was discussing the benefits of lift chairs with someone. Lol.