The gift, if they give one, would replace the regular monthly "help," according to stepmom.
Ugh, how much you want to bet it won't work out that way?
Tricky situation Lexie, I don't envy you walking the tightrope between their right to do as they choose and what may be bad choices. It's great you're all being civil and cooperative. I thought my three brothers and I would be like that during my mom's recent health scare and it turned out quite differently. One of my brothers apparently has the ability to really go off the rails. I honestly didn't know that. Not a happy lesson.
We do our best. It's good you are such a help to them. It's hard when our aging parents are far away. ::hugs::