hi Robin,
I told her I was practicing loving detachment and she accused me of not caring about her.
Yep, same thing exactly happened to me. You've changed the steps to the dance and she doesn't know what to do. The irony here is that this may help her more than anything else you've done.
I'm really happy for you. Letting go as a mom is so very hard. You're a good mom who loves deeply. It's wonderful that you are now creating boundaries.
And.....God will help you.
fondly,
Reikihelps